打开心门拥抱生活Weoftencloseourselvesoffwhentraumaticeventshappeninourlives;insteadoflettingtheworldsoftenus,weletitdriveusdeeperintoourselves.Wetrytodeflectthehurtandpainbypretendingitdoesn’texist,butalthoughwecantrythisallwewant,intheend,wecan’thidefromourselves.Weneedtolearntoopenourheartstothepotentialsoflifeandlettheworldsoftenus.生活发生不幸时，我们常常会关上心门；世界不仅没能慰藉我们，反倒使我们更加消沉。我们假装一切仿佛都不曾发生，以此试图忘却伤痛，可就算隐藏得再好，最终也还是骗不了自己。既然如此，何不尝试打开心门，拥抱生活中的各种可能，让世界感化我们呢？Wheneverwestarttoletourfearsandseriousnessgetthebestofus,weshouldtakeastepbackandre-evaluateourbehavior.Theitemslistedbelowaresixwaysyoucanopenyourheartmorefullyandcompletely.当恐惧与焦虑来袭时，我们应该退后一步，重新反思自己的言行。下面六个方法有助于你更完满透彻地敞开心扉。1.Breatheintopain直面痛苦Wheneverapainfulsituationarisesinyourlife,trytoembraceitinsteadofrunningawayortryingtomaskthehurt.Whenthesadnessstrikes,takeadeepbreathandleanintoit.Whenwerunawayfromsadnessthat’sunfoldinginourlives,itgetsstrongerandmorereal.Wetakeanemotionthat’sfleetingandmakeitasolidevent,insteadofsomethingthatpassesthroughus.当生活中出现痛苦的事情时，别再逃跑或隐藏痛苦，试着拥抱它吧；当悲伤来袭时，试着深呼吸，然后直面它。如果我们一味逃避生活中的悲伤，悲伤只会变得更强烈更真实——悲伤原本只是稍纵即逝的情绪，我们却固执地耿耿于怀。Byutilizingourbreathwesoftenourexperiences.Ifwedamthemup,ourliveswillstagnate,butwhenwekeepthemflowing,weallowmorenewnessandgreaterexperiencestoblossom.深呼吸能减缓我们的感受。屏住呼吸，生活停滞；呼出呼吸，更多新奇与经历又将拉开序幕。2.Embracetheuncomfortable拥抱不安Weallknowwhatthattwingeofanxietyfeelslike.Weknowhowfearfeelsinourbodies:thetensioninournecks,thetightnessinourstomachs,etc.Wecanpracticeleaningintothesefeelingsofdiscomfortandletthemshowuswhereweneedtogo.我们都经历过焦灼的煎熬感，也都感受过恐惧造成的生理反应：脖子僵硬、胃酸翻腾。其实，我们有能力面对这些痛苦的感受，从中领悟到出路。Theinitialimpulseistorunaway—totryandsuppressthesefeelingsbynotacknowledgingthem.Whenwedothis,wecloseourselvesofftothepartsofourlivesthatweneedtoexperiencemost.Thenexttimeyouhavethisfeelingofbeingtrulyuncomfortable,doyourselfafavorandleanintothefeeling.Actinspiteofthefear.我们的第一反应总是逃避——以为否认不安情绪的存在就能万事大吉，可这也恰好妨碍了我们经历最需要的生活体验。下次感到不安时，不管有多害怕，也请试着勇敢面对吧。3.Askyourheartwhatitwants倾听内心We’reoftenconfusedatthenextsteptotake,makingprosandconslistsuntiloureyesbleedandourbrainsaresore.Insteadofalwaystakingthisapproach,whatifweengagedanewpartofourselvesthatisn’tusuallyinvolvedinthedecisionmakingprocess?我们常对未来犹疑不定，反复考虑利弊直到身心俱疲。与其一味顾虑重重，不如从局外人的角度看待决策之事。Iknowwe’veallfeltdecisionsoractionsthatwehadtotakesimplyduetoour“gut”impulses:whenasked,wecan’texplainthereasonsbehinddoingso—justadeepknowingthatithadtogetdone.Thisinstinctisthepartofourselveswe’reapproachingforanswers.其实很多决定或行动都是我们一念之间的结果：要是追问原因的话，恐怕我们自己也道不清说不明，只是感到直觉如此罢了。而这种直觉恰好是我们探索结果的潜在自我。Tostartthisprocess,takefewdeepbreathsthenask,“Heart,whatdecisionshouldImakehere?Whatactionfeelsthemostright?”开始前先做几次深呼吸，问自己：“内心认为该做什么样的决定呢？觉得采取哪个方...
