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Justamomentago,mydaughterRebeccatextedmeforgoodluck.Hertextsaid,"Mom,youwillrock."Ilovethis.Gettingthattextwaslikegettingahug.Andsothereyouhaveit.Iembodythecentralparadox.I'mawomanwholovesgettingtextswho'sgoingtotellyouthattoomanyofthemcanbeaproblem.几分钟之前我的女儿Rebecca发了一条短信为我加油。她说“妈妈，你会震撼全场的！”我太喜欢这个了接到这条短信就像得到了她的拥抱。所以大家看到了我自己就处在这样一个核心矛盾里。我自己非常喜欢收短信但却要告诉大家太多的短信会成为一个大问题。Actuallythatreminderofmydaughterbringsmetothebeginningofmystory.1996,whenIgavemyfirstTEDTalk,Rebeccawasfiveyearsoldandshewassittingrightthereinthefrontrow.IhadjustwrittenabookthatcelebratedourlifeontheinternetandIwasabouttobeonthecoverofWiredmagazine.Inthoseheadydays,wewereexperimentingwithchatroomsandonlinevirtualcommunities.Wewereexploringdifferentaspectsofourselves.Andthenweunplugged.Iwasexcited.And,asapsychologist,whatexcitedmemostwastheideathatwewouldusewhatwelearnedinthevirtualworldaboutourselves,aboutouridentity,tolivebetterlivesintherealworld.事实上，我的女儿让我想起了这个故事的开端。1996年我第一次在TED演讲的时候Rebecca只有5岁她就坐在那里最前排。那时我刚刚写了一本书庆祝我们的网络新生活而且将要成为《连线》杂志(Wired)的封面人物。在那些令人陶醉的日子里我们体验着网络聊天室和在线虚拟社区。我们正从不同的角度探索自己。然后我们回到现实中来。我对此感到非常兴奋。作为一个心理学家，最令我兴奋的就是这样的理念：我们会运用我们在虚拟世界中对自己，对我们自身认同的了解改善我们的现实生活。Nowfast-forwardto2012.I'mbackhereontheTEDstageagain.Mydaughter's20.She'sacollegestudent.Shesleepswithhercellphone,sodoI.AndI'vejustwrittenanewbook,butthistimeit'snotonethatwillgetmeonthecoverofWiredmagazine.Sowhathappened?I'mstillexcitedbytechnology,butIbelieve,andI'mheretomakethecase,thatwe'relettingittakeusplacesthatwedon'twanttogo.现在让我们快进到2012年我又重新回到了TED的讲台。我的女儿已经是一名20岁的大学生了。她睡觉都抱着她的手机。其实我也是。我刚刚完成了一本新书，但是这一本却不会让我登上《连线》杂志的封面。那这十几年间发生了什么呢？我仍然为科技而兴奋但是我相信并且想要向大家说明我们正在放任科技它将我们带向歧途。Overthepast15years,I'vestudiedtechnologiesofmobilecommunicationandI'veinterviewedhundredsandhundredsofpeople,youngandold,abouttheirpluggedinlives.AndwhatI'vefoundisthatourlittledevices,thoselittledevicesinourpockets,aresopsychologicallypowerfulthattheydon'tonlychangewhatwedo,theychangewhoweare.Someofthethingswedonowwithourdevicesarethingsthat,onlyafewyearsago,wewouldhavefoundoddordisturbing,butthey'vequicklycometoseemfamiliar,justhowwedothings.在过去的15年间我一直在研究移动通信技术的影响并且访问了成百上千的人，年轻的或年长的了解他们的“移动生活”。我发现我们口袋中那些轻巧的电子设备在心理学上有着如此强大的力量它们不仅改变了我们的生活方式也改变了我们本身。我们现在用电子设备做的一些事情在几年前还被认为是稀奇或让人讨厌，但是很快大家就习以为常——只是我们的行事方式而已。Sojusttotakesomequickexamples:Peopletextordoemailduringcorporateboardmeetings.TheytextandshopandgoonFacebookduringclasses,duringpresentations,actuallyduringallmeetings.Peopletalktomeabouttheimportantnewskillofmakingeyecontactwhileyou'retexting.(Laughter)Peopleexplaintomethatit'shard,butthatitcanbedone.Parentstextanddoemailatbreakfastandatdinnerwhiletheirchildrencomplainaboutnothavingtheirparents'fullattention.Butthenthesesamechildrendenyeachothertheirfu...