精选Unit4PreviewWeallhaveexperiencedbetrayalorhurt.Somechoosetocarrygrudges,nurseoldwoundsorrelivepasthumiliations.Prideandil--vanitybuildsawall;weevenshutthedoorforanexplanation.Meetwith11someoneolderandwiseonTuesdays,andwe'llcometoknowtheartoflife,thatholdingontotheangerconsumesthehappiness,whilelettinggoofhatredinvitesmoreloveintolife.Soputasidetheanger,letreliefwashoverus,andmoveforwardwithourlifebysimplyacceptinganapology.PartITextReadingWarm-upI.BeingamentorIfyouwanttobreakoutordosomethingextraordinarythatyouwouldnotdoonyourowninitiative,you'dbetterhaveamentor,anexperiencedandtrustedfriendandaprudentadvisor.Morespecifically,whatdoyouthinkmakeagoodmentor?StepOneTheroleofthementorismultifaceted.Workinpairstodecideonthespecificpersonalitytraitsthatmakeagoodmentor,andexplainyourchoices.Amentormustbe:aged/aneffectivelistener/sincereandcommitted/punctual/emotionallyinvolved/trustworthy/arrogant/aresponsiblerolemodel/loyal/honest/knowledgeable/persuasive/agoodtalker/independent/self-esteemed/(orothers)StepTwo·Trytobeamentor,andgiveyouradvicetohelpothersoutofthefollowingdilemmas:·Stayinghomeorgoingabroadforfurtherdevelopment?·Quittingthecurrentjobtostartabusinessorstayingonitforpromotion?·Beingtoleranttothoseirritationsortakingrevenge?·Makingupforthemistakesorlettingthepastbethepast?·Makingmoneyatallcostnoworseekingfunbeforeitistoolate?II.Areyouforgiving?Ticktheboxesyouagreewithinthefollowingquestionnaire.1.Ifyoudosomethingstraightaway,doyouforgiveyourself?YesNoSometimesI'Never2.Isitimportanttoforgiveyourselfandotherswhenmistakesaremade?Yes'NoISometimesIINotsureI3.Howdoyoufeelwhenyouhaveforgivensomeoneforsomething?10KIINotsureIIVeryhappyIExcitedIProudofmyself4.Areyoureluctanttoforgive?IYes'INoI'SometimesI'Never精选5.IfyouansweredYesinabovequestion,thisisbecauseyou.(Youmaytickasmanyboxesasyouwant)areonlythinkingofnegativethingsIIdon'tvalueyourselforothersenoughhavenotbeenshownhowtoforgiveIII.Areyouapersonwhohangsontopainfulmemories,orareyouabletoforgetandforgive?·Thinkofaparticularpersonwhohasbeenunpleasanttoyouinsomeway.·Imagineanyuncomfortablefeelingsyouoncehadabouthim/her.·Thinkofsomethinglikeableorworthwhileabouthim/her.·Thinkofyourselfforgivinghim/her.TextThe(Twelve->)TwelfthTuesdayWeTalkaboutforgiveness1MitchAlbom[1]"Forgiveyourselfbeforeyoudie.Thenforgiveothers."[2]Thiswasafewdaysafterthe"Nightline"interview2.Theskywasrainyanddark(<->black),andMorriewasbeneathablanket.I(sit->)satatthefarendofhischair,holdinghisbarefeet.Theywerecallused(hardened)andcurled,andhistoenailswereyellow.Ihadasmalljaroflotion,andIsqueezedsomeintomyhandsandbegantomassagehisankles(n.脚踝).[3]ItwasanotherofthethingsIhadwatchedhishelpers(nurses)doformonths,andnow,inanattemptto(inorderto)holdonto(grasp/catch)whatIcouldofhim(尽可能挽留这一逝去的生命),Ihadvolunteeredtodoitmyself.3Thediseasehadleft(made)Morriewithouttheability4eventowiggle(摆动)histoes,yethecouldstillfeelpain,andmassageshelpedrelieve(reduce/toeasethe)it(pain).Also,ofcourse,Morrielikedbeingheldandtouched.Andatthispoint,anythingIcoulddotomakehimhappy,Iwasgoingtodo.5[4]"Mitch,"hesaid,returningtothesubjectofforgiveness."Thereisnopoint(meaning/significance)inkeepingvengeance(复仇,报仇)orstubbornness.Thesethings"—hesighed(叹气)--thesethingsIsoregretinmylife.Pride.Vanity.Whydowedothethingswedo?"[5]Theimportanceofforgivingwasmyqu...
