学会说“不”,利人利己 thepowerofsayingno we'veallhadtimeswhenwesayyestosomeonebutreallywanttosayno.it'softendifficulttosaynobecauseofthedesiretobeloved：wewanttobehelpful，wewanttoshowwecare，butwemayhavelittletogive，aretired，overworked，orneedalonetime.doyoufeelthatifyouaren'tthereforsomeone，theymayrejectyou。orthatyou'resomehowobligedtohelpasitmakesyouagoodperson，parentorfriend。doyoueverfeelvalidatedbybeingneeded。it'seasytobelievethatanytimeyoutaketorelaxormeditateistimethatcouldbeusedelsewhere.buttakingtimeoutdoesn'tmeanitisselfishorevenwastedtime.thinkaboutwhathappenswhenyourdayisspentconstantlycaringforothers.doyougetresentful，irritated，orevenangry。doyoufindstressbuildingup。doesthequalityofcarethatyouofferbecomeaffectedbythatinnertension。orareyousousedtobeingthiswaythatitseemsimpossibletoimaginebeinganyotherway。youmayeventhinkyou'renottherelaxingtype，orthatifyoudorelaxyouwon'tbeabletocopewithallthethingsyouhavetodo.however，bytakingtimeforyourself，byloweringyourbloodpressureandreleasingstress，youareimmediatelycreatingamoreharmoniousenvironmentthatcanonlybenefitallthosearoundyou.whenyoutaketimeouttobequietitmeansyoudon'tgetsoangry，resentful，orfrustrated;instead，youconnectwithwhoyoureallyare.thenwhatyousharewithothersiscomingfromthatpeacefulspace.whenyouareenergizedandfeelinggoodyouwillbeabletodofarmorethanifyouaredraggingyourselfthroughyourdaywithlittleenergyorinabadmood.so，ratherthanbeingselfish，suchactivityisactuallytheleastselfishthingyoucoulddo。thisiswhensayingnotoothersmeansyouareaffirmingyourself.thepowerofsayingnoisthatyouareempowered。 学会说“不”，利人利己 我们有时都会言不由衷答应别人。 由于渴望受别人喜爱，通常很难说不。我们想有助于他人。我们想要表示我们的关心，但我们可能没有什么可给予的，因而感觉烦恼，身心疲惫，或需要独处一段时间。你是否觉得如果你不迎合别人，他们就可能拒绝你吗。或你勉为其难被迫援手，因为这才能让你成为一个好人，好父母或好朋友。你是否感到真正被他人所需吗。人们易于认为用以放松或冥想的时间都可用于其他方面。但...
