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下载后可任意编辑 A professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts, Robert Feldman has spent most of his career studying the role deception plays in human relationships. His most recent book, The Liar in Your Life: How Lies Work and What They Tell Us About Ourselves, lays out in stark terms just how prevalent lying has become. He talked to TIME about why we all need a dose of honesty. What are the main findings of your research Not only do we lie frequently, but we lie without even thinking about it. People lie while they are getting acquainted an average of three times in a 10-minute period. Participants in my studies actually are not aware that they are lying that much until they watch videos of their interactions. One of the reasons people get away with so much lying, your research suggests, is that we are all essentially dupes. Why do we believe so many lies This is what I call the liars advantage. We are not very good at detecting deception in other people. When we are trying to detect honesty, we look at the wrong kinds of nonverbal behaviors, and we misinterpret them. The problem is that there is no direct correlation between someones nonverbal behavior and their honesty. Shiftiness could also be the result of being nervous, angry, distracted or sad. Even trained interrogators [arent] able to detect deception at [high] rates. You might as well flip a coin to determine if someone is being honest. Whats more, a lot of the time, we dont want to detect lies in other people. We are unwilling to put forward the cognitive effort to suspect the veracity of statements, and we arent motivated to question people when they tell us things we want to hear. When we as...